{"id":2723,"date":"2026-02-27T10:00:40","date_gmt":"2026-02-27T09:00:40","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/frauleadership.com\/?p=2723"},"modified":"2026-02-27T10:00:44","modified_gmt":"2026-02-27T09:00:44","slug":"i-disagree-but-i-never-say-it-out-loud-try-the-following","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/frauleadership.com\/en\/i-disagree-but-i-never-say-it-out-loud-try-the-following\/","title":{"rendered":"I disagree, but I never say it out loud. Try the following."},"content":{"rendered":"
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Hello Reader,<\/p>\n

\u201cI disagree, but I never say it out loud.\u201d This is what I heard in a recent conversation. Imagine you’re sitting in a leadership meeting, the only woman at the table. A new strategy is being presented, and something about it doesn’t sit right with you.<\/p>\n

You have a different perspective.<\/p>\n

A valid one.<\/p>\n

But you’ve been quiet before, and speaking up now feels like a risk. \u201cWhat if I sound difficult? What if I\u2019m the only one who thinks this?\u201d<\/p>\n

I know this feeling well. And I’ve seen it come up again and again with the women I work with.<\/p>\n

Try the following next time (and work your way towards it) \ud83d\udc47<\/p>\n

Step 1<\/strong>: State your position first. Say that you disagree. Then pause. Pausing is important.<\/p>\n

Step 2<\/strong>: Suggest an alternative. Offer a different direction. Then pause again.<\/p>\n

Step 3<\/strong>: Only then, follow it with your reasoning. Share the reasons behind your disagreement.<\/p>\n

Why in this order?<\/p>\n

As scientists, we’re trained to justify and explain first. We give all the context, all the data, all the reasoning, and then we get to our point.<\/p>\n

In a meeting, people can get lost in the explanation before they even know what you’re proposing.<\/p>\n

Lead with your opinion. THEN back it up.<\/p>\n

I know this can be really hard, especially if you’re not used to speaking up, and especially when you’re disagreeing with a room full of people who seem aligned.<\/p>\n

But better decisions happen when different perspectives are heard. And yours is one of them.<\/p>\n

And if, after all of that, the consensus is still to go with the original direction?<\/p>\n

Then commit to executing as a team. Disagreeing is important, but once a decision is made, pulling in different directions is a recipe for disaster.<\/p>\n

Your voice is not a disruption.<\/p>\n

It’s a contribution.<\/p>\n

You can do it! \ud83d\ude4b\u200d\u2640\ufe0f\ud83d\udcaa<\/p>\n

Mareike<\/p>\n

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P.S. Have you ever held back in a meeting and later wished you hadn’t?<\/p>\n

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